How to Deal with Stressful Teenagers
How to deal with stressful Teenagers
Teenagers are very influenced by their peers and they need to feel part of their ‘group’. They also think that they know everything and you know nothing; you’re old and don’t know what’s going on.
Teenagers get to a stage where they don’t want to discuss issues with their parents. This is normal also
In some cases, a dysfunctional teenager is the visible symptom of a dysfunctional family. In other cases, an out-of-control teenager is the result of a trauma or a loss experienced by either the family or the teenager themselves. In many cases, parents need to learn new ways of dealing with their teenager, and just like their parents, teenagers need to learn new skills to help them deal with the issues they face on a daily basis both at home and at school.
A lot of the stress that comes from dealing with teenagers depends on your relationship with them and also your skills as a parent. If you are having problems it doesn’t necessarily mean that your teenager is a bad person, or that you are a bad parent. One of the most common mistakes parents make is to still see their teenager as a toddler, and therefore treating them as such.
There are many programs out there to assist parents through this difficult time. Some programs are free of charge. Your first step should be to talk to your family doctor to find out what is available in your area.
Full on counselling services may not work with teens, that is why there are many really good programs out there specifically tailored to the adolescent's needs.
For example at Lifestyle Directions Counselling, we offer a program for teenage boys based on the martial arts philosophy, our counsellors work directly with the adolescent, or with a parent or parents, to facilitate a greater sense of meaning, life direction and purpose. This proven approach deals with issues such as confusion, random behaviour and violence to build trust, confidence – unique in a way that does not focus on the teenager’s weaknesses but instead turns the attention onto their strengths.
The result? Negative feelings and triggers are transformed into positive behaviours, values and beliefs that bring about a renewed sense of optimism, hope and positive momentum.
For more information visit our website by clicking on the following link: Adolescent Programs